The Holidays are coming soon. Do you have already all your gifts for family and friends? If not, I suggest a kind of different and unexpected gift.
"The Girl Who Couldn't Laugh: The Neuroscience of Stress Management"
Yes, this book is a great surprise gift – here are 5 reasons why:
1. Easy and fast shipping
You can order the book with FREE 2-day shipping from Amazon Prime.
If you are not a Prime member, shipping is still inexpensive and FAST.
2. They will even gift wrap it for you
If you are busy Amazon will gift wrap it and include your personal message.
3. This gift never comes in the wrong size or color.
You don't need to ask his/her favorite color or size. IT doesn’t cause allergies either:-)
4. The book is easy to read
A book on Stress Management sounds difficult? Don't worry. Our readers tell us all the time they are surprised how easy and fun it is to read. Many personal stories bring the science to life ... and here is the best part!
5. This is a gift which will improve their life … and that for less than $20
SciStress techniques are super fast and effective stress buster. They can actually get rid of the root causes of stress. Stress not only sabotages productivity and personal potential, it endangers people’s health and makes them look older than they should. The techniques presented can help even with New Year’s resolutions (more on that in the next blog). They are so powerful and versatile.
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Best wishes for stress free holidays and a very happy New Year!
Your stress coach,
Fred George Sauer
Holiday STRESS can ruin it all
The holidays are coming. That's exciting, so much fun and joy! And yet this can also be one of the most stressful times of the year. Stress can suddenly jump up right in front of you where you least expect it. Something important doesn't work the way you planned, somebody who has hurt you shows up suddenly, or worse nothing happens and you are all alone. We'll talk about a few of these to get you well prepared.
Good stress, bad stress
Let's not forget that for most people the holidays are a wonderful experience. There is excitement, anticipation and preparation. Even if there are some big stresses with the season, much of the time it can be a great experience. And just as well one single bad thing can ruin it. So what is this thing with good stress - bad stress?
Hans Selye, the Austrian-Canadian genius, researched and defined stress. He talked about eustress and distress. Everybody knows what distress is all about. It's something which makes you feel bad, unhappy, scared or angry. A lot of distress will even make you sick. Eustress is just the opposite. "Eu" comes from Greek and means good. So eustress literally means good stress. With good stress you feel excited, challenged, motivated and fulfilled. So for the holidays you want the good stress and not the bad.
Your old brain causes all this stress
You want the good stress, the excitement, the good feelings with family and friends. It's important to know that bad stress comes from your old brain. The big problem with the old brain is that you don't have direct control over it. That part of your brain sits deep down in your skull below your thinking brain. It pretty much does what it wants.
Its function is to keep you safe, but that was created for very different circumstances. Your old brain was created for you to survive as a hunter and gatherer tens of thousands of years ago. It can't change quickly enough for modern life. But it is your old brain which runs your decisions, your feelings and your automatic reactions in your life.
Your old brain and your holidays
To keep you safe the old brain "thinks" that any change is dangerous. It basically tells you to keep things the same. It actually doesn't think. Your old brain is subconscious and has no logic.
First and foremost the nature of old brain programs say, "you have survived this far, therefore we don't want to change anything." This is the main reason that even the unfortunate things you do in your life are so difficult to change. That's true for example for too much eating, drinking, smoking, etc. and worse!
The second thing your old brain does, it keeps score of all the bad things which ever happened to you. It actually controls our long-term memory.
E.g., your dad or teacher criticized you, somebody hit you, treated you badly, anything like that will be recorded. Here are two examples of how this works.
Say your mom made each holiday perfect. Everything was beautiful and every detail was perfection, for example from Thanksgiving turkey to table settings, from guest list to menu and drinks. Perhaps she didn't go to work and had the time or she ran herself ragged to make it perfect. Perhaps now you are the working parent already stretched to the limit.
Be honest, having her example can you relax and have a simpler holiday? Can you now change, make dinner easy, use paper plates and buy the turkey already cooked? You see this sounds so simple but is not easy. This would be logical for you to do and yet your old brain has no logic and says no. It just wants you to do things the same way your family has always done.
Or let’s look at something worse … On holidays your family home was not a happy place. There might be tension, opinionated righteousness, then sharp words, too much alcohol and verbal fights. And some of you may even have experienced violence. Unfortunately your old brain thinks that is okay. You did survive and thus the old brain programs say that all that happened is important to help you survive now again. Those subconscious programs need a lot of effort and commitment from you to change. You might need help from people experienced in such work, well qualified and familiar with modern techniques which help you fast.
What do you want?
This is important. Take inventory. Write it down. What do you want? What worked well, what did you like in holidays of past? What did you see others do that was both easy and was fun? What else would feel good and make it fun for you and yours?
To get control over old brain impulses it is important you start with what you want and what you like!
Why is it a good thing to write it down?
Again, it is your old brain. As you move to write, get your paper or tablet - hey, not ancient stone tablet - your old brain gets activated and starts to pay attention. Actually, the stone tablet was only half a joke; to carve it into stone really would get your old brain really involved. So write down what you like. Write down some features of the happy past. That will give both your thinking brain and your old brain focus. Your emotions will be positive and strong.
Try something different
Now think of things you don't want, past events on holidays which led to pain. Next think of ways to plan your holidays which will make sure these don’t recur. Write down specific ways for each problem not to happen again. Some examples:
Now cross off each item on the list that you don’t want.
Your old brain wants some action, so crossing it out makes it more real.
This will tell your subconscious it's not needed anymore. Next read out loud all the good things you are planning. Again your old brain hears it and will change with greater ease.
Old wisdom and the new
Why is your old brain so powerful? Why does it make you do things you don't really want anymore? Why are you not even aware of it?
Old wisdom: "If you do what you always did, you'll get what you always got."
How does your old brain stop you from trying something new? It will cause stress! And stress will pull a lot of blood automatically (up to 70%) from your new brain where all your thinking happens. Your thinking brain has no more oxygen, you feel fogged up, anxious and not clear. Actually, we wrote a special report with all 10 dangers caused by stress, click here and get it free.
Easy way to manage old brain stress
Your brain is fogged up, no clear thinking, procrastination, indecision.
That is what happens without oxygen in your "new" brain, the only place where you have logic and can think. What can you do? How do you get oxygen and blood where you now need it most?
There is a simple answer your old brain likes.
Get out and move! Take a brisk walk, go to the gym, do your favorite workout! Get breathing deeply, work up some sweat. Now your blood flows full of oxygen. Your thinking brain works well again. Clarity, energy and focus have returned. Now you can make new decisions and take new actions with success.
This is the best time to make new plans, be well prepared and now create your holidays to be refreshing, full of fun. Leave out the drudgery, complexities and stress. KISS, Keep It Simple Smart one,
Make your holidays simple, easy, fun. Create new memories for your old brain to be proud of!
Best wishes for a great Thanksgiving and all the coming holidays from your still not totally stress-free stress coach,
Fred George Sauer
In July we had planned a Focus Group to find out what participants would think about our SciStress training and what results they could achieve in a short time. We concentrated what normally would be a full day’s training into 2 ½ hours. I felt that was a challenge. Also, everyone had indicated in a pre-survey that they were quite skeptical to begin with.
So I was pleasantly surprised how much we could pack into that short a time. I was even more surprised about the results our participants could achieve. Now take a look at the brief videos to find out what some of them had to say after the training.
"Afterwards, I felt more relaxed and peaceful. I’m excited to go home and build it into my daily routine." - S.H.
"The first time I had a really strongly troublesome memory like a 9 or a 10 on the troublesome scale and just doing one quick round it had come down to about a 4 and we did it again and it was about a level 2 or 3." - V.M.
What are other participants saying? You can watch the rest of the videos here.
Want to get the same results for yourself?
Here is how you can find out! You can learn the SciStress Techniques and why they are so easy and work so well from the book "The Girl Who Couldn't Laugh: The Neuroscience of Stress Management."
This book tells you how your mind really works, how it creates problems for you at times, and how you can manage those problems more easily. We make that bit of science easy and fun to understand. We do that with personal stories of people’s experiences. It’s a journey of discovery into your own mind.
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Enjoy the journey!
Your stress coach, Fred George Sauer
Less than 100 years ago, when you had a wound infection, you could easily die a slow, grueling death. Families and the medical profession had ways to make this difficult and uncertain recovery as easy and comfortable as possible. They would make the patient rest, clean the wounds, give some light food and drink, cool the fever with a wet cloth or ice. Then they’d pray and hope for the best. There was nothing more they could do. If the infection was serious, death was certain.
A big change then
Today we know that a new method was coming which would help those afflicted. With this they’d recover quickly. Death was defeated. The new method was developed by Alexander Fleming in 1929. He saw that molds killed bacteria in the laboratory. So he developed an extract from the molds to kill the infection bacteria inside of people. Penicillin was born. By the way, Fleming’s discovery was actively discredited and rejected by the established professionals at the time. He was actually laughed out of professional meetings because his ideas were so “ridiculous.”
Once an effective form of penicillin was widely available shortly after World War II, the old rituals of attending to the infected patients would quickly vanish. All you had to do was administer the precious white powder, penicillin, and within a few hours a quick recovery would begin. After nearly 20 years, Dr. Fleming and his new methods were widely recognized. Then British royalty knighted him Sir Alexander Fleming.
A big change today
Now we have a new powerful method to deal with emotional trauma. This new method works so fast and is so effective that established professionals in the field again ridicule it. They cannot believe something would work 10 to 100 times faster than the old tools they are used to.
Over 20 years ago one of the founders of these techniques demonstrated multiple times at a VA hospital that PTSD can be healed in a few hours. Yet only a few months ago has the US Veterans Administration even permitted use of the techniques.
VA psychiatrists just could not accept that something they couldn’t accomplish in months or years could be dealt with of in a few hours or days.
Healing the broken heart now
In my own work the “broken heart syndrome” is particularly easy and quick to heal. Over the past dozen years I have frequently coached people how to do this. Note, I taught them to do this for themselves. I didn’t do it for them! Modest training by a skilled coach can do it. The time required is usually miraculously short, an hour or two, sometimes less. I am talking here only about a single loss of a loved one, the loss of a previously loving relationship or even a single bad experience like an accident. Obviously this does not apply to complex multi-year or repeated bad experiences. That would take more training, work and skill.
Results are typically fast and consistent
There are 3 main phases when working with a single, straightforward loss or other traumatic event.
Phase 1 RELIEF: the pain and shock of the situation diminishes. The facial expression of the client changes dramatically. There are typical reactions: deep breathing, sighing, yawning, tears, smiles or even laughter. These are clear signs of a shift, release and relief.
Phase 2 REALIZATION: the client notices the speed and depth of the transformation they had just achieved. They are puzzled. Surprise how such pain and drama can disappear so quickly sinks in. Just minutes before, their problem had overshadowed their life deeply and incessantly. They often feel the need to talk about this shift. Some say they need to “pinch themselves” to test if it is real.
Phase 3 RESULTS: clients process the new situation. They begin to think about the positive aspects and opportunities which now present themselves. For example after the painful loss of a loved one, now the individual will spontaneously begin to talk about the fond, beautiful memories with that person. With the pain gone the love, beauty and positives of the past can reemerge. Or they get ideas how to deal constructively with a los, e.g. the boyfriend dumped her, now she can see the past problems with him. She decides to look for a new and more supportive relationship.
There is no secret
This process and the results can be easily demonstrated. It doesn’t take that much to show how fast and thoroughly these techniques work. Why don’t you know about it? Why do the professionals not use them?
You actually may know about the techniques. Yet you may not realize how important these natural easy to learn and easy to apply techniques are. The established professional community still has their collective heads in the sand. This is actually quite natural if you understand how the brain really works. Here are the facts:
Connecting the dots
After working with the techniques for a number of years I ask myself that question, why does EFT work so fast? Why does it have such a wide spectrum of application? I began to study the brain and the neuroscience of mind and emotions. It became clear the key lay in the human survival function and stress. Connecting the dots of my experience working with people, the neuroscience, and the brain’s stress mechanism, things began to make sense. Now I started to understand how and why MTT works.
After a decade of experience working with hundreds of people in thousands of session things came together. Insights from neuroscience and how the humans function under stress suddenly made sense. I could see it work in my coaching clients right in front of me. Further improved techniques and my discoveries of how it all fits together have now been documented in my book: “The Girl Who Couldn’t Laugh: The Neuroscience of Stress Management.” Amongst many other things the book gives you a thorough introduction to:
You may realize how valuable this information is for you personally, your loved ones and others around. Anyone who suffers from the stress and heartbreak will benefit. It’s easy to get this book with this link
Readers tell me the book is fun to read and the science has been made easy to understand and brought to life with stories of real people and their experiences.
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